I've been smoking since I was 18, I started it just for the fun of it but then I eventually got addicted. Its so bad, my parents even know and beg me to desist from it but I just can't. I'd much rather smoke than eat. I know of the health hazards (obviously) and presently I'm having serious chest pains and shortness of breathe but I still can't help myself. Also I worry that my smoking must have driven away several prospective suitors/boyfriends because of the light in which it is seen in Nigeria. Please click to continue reading.
Mind you, I'm not wayward or anything; I'd much rather smoke in the confines of a room than out in the open (in fact sometimes I lodge in guest houses all by myself for a day or two just so that I can just chill and smoke). I don't do weed or skunk, just cigarettes. Anyway I don't want to drone on and on but I would really appreciate tips on quitting smoking .
And also I would like to hear from guys, I know there's a double standard, but what do you think about women who smoke? Would u consider a serious relationship/marriage with a lady who smokes, is it a deal breaker? I'm asking because I'm a successful career-driven lady who's well groomed and also very pretty (I'm not being conceited). I'm also quite domesticated and generally a decent person. But I sometimes wonder if smoking is the reason for some failed relationships I've been in.
Ladun please post this, I beg of you. I'm sorry but I would like to remain anonymous. Thanks and God bless you. Have a great week ahead.
Why would u seek advice in a forum were u r sure to get insulted, ridiculed and condemned all becos u r a Nigerian girl who smokes. If u really need help, go on the Internet and seek help from websites that deal with helping smokers.
ReplyDeleteDear future writers, Google has all the tips in the world, be it relationship tips or cigarette quitting tips. Whatever you are experiencing, google it, you will find various fora and comments on it
ReplyDeleteP.S: You may wish to try Pastor T. B Joshua of synagogue. He did Tonto Dike's own for her
I used to smoke too. Similar to how you started (i started at 16. I thought it was cool and hard babe-like to be a smoker) and i did it a lot indoors. I always had BFs who loved me smoking so i had no urge to stop. I met my husband in 1999 & while we were planning the wedding at the end of the year, i said i won't take smoking into the new millennium. I just stopped.
ReplyDeleteWhen you say "can't" you are already professing negativity.
Prior to the eve of the millennium, i went through several processes; I fell ill once with bronchitis and almost stopped breathing. I drastically cut down. From 10 a day to 8 to 5 to 1 and then sometimes when i lit one, i won't finish it. It started tasting bitter and disgusting in my mouth. I started putting all my cigarette money in a piggy bank. I earned a fortune. LOL! Cigarettes have never been cheap in the UK. In fact when i went home on holidays i'd buy rolls to come back with me.
Since i stopped, i've been night clubbing, i've been out drinking, been out with smokers and i never felt the urge to smoke.
I feared that with my pregnancies, the urge would come back but thank God it didn't.
Today, i can't stand it. I move away when people are smoking near me. I look at younger girls and when i quickly want to judge them, i remember myself!! You can stop. Try the patches, nicorette this and that. I tried them but the urge was even more. Now, my colleague smokes the electric cigarettes and she said she's cut down drastically.
Good luck. You need willpower.
I'm a lover of the no smoking in public places.
You can do it!
Bn there b4, but bliv me girl it wasn't so hard for me, I smoked all tru my uni days, and tru out my service year, but wen I secured a job I decided to stop, I did 4 2wks, but I went bk to it d 3rd wk, so I decided not to stop at once, from 6sticks daily, I reduced to 3, gradully to 1stick, I started 4getting to smoke, afta 6month, I totally lost interest... Its all about DETERMINATION dear. May God see u tru.
ReplyDeleteGet rid of all d smokes around you, see a counsellor or check into a rehab. You would be fine its good you know you have a problem. All the best and may God see you through IJN
ReplyDeleteRehab for cigarette smoking?? Extreme much?
DeleteMiss Lawyer please buy the nicorette gums or inhalers and use when you have the urge to lite up.
Well i see ladies who smoke as hot or sexy but i dont mean marriage or relationship sexy o...only as lamba or kpanshin sexy.
ReplyDeleteStop it now before it ages you badly and before you start having kids. You need to set up a plan on how to stop and stick to it. Also, there's a good book by Allen Carr titled Easy Way to Stop Smoking. People swear by this book.
ReplyDeleteNo guy in his ryt sense wil wanna settle 4 a gal wu smoke! A gal who smokes is perceived as uncouth, as avin emotional problems n guys wil run cus dey knw u cnt liv long wid u inhalin smoke.. U jus av 2b determined n pray in oda 2stp it
ReplyDeleteGive your life to Jesus and tell Him to help you. He's willing to help you only if you will allow Him. You can call on Him now. God bless you.
ReplyDeleteIs smoking a sin?let me ask you this question?she is just adicted to it,that's all,you read when she said she is a good girl,and homely,so which one b give ur life to jesus,is it in the bible,thou shall not smoke?pls I want to know!
DeleteNot only the potential husband, what happened to your health? Do u think they will want to spend there money sending you to India for treatment? Pls quit it! Start first by reducing the amount and maybe go out often so you don't think of smoking! It won't be easy , just try and ask God ok!!
ReplyDeleteAyo said....
ReplyDeleteI used to smoke myself and i even work in a hospital and see patients that are affected by the adverse effects of smoking everyday. I suggest that first go on your knees and ask God to help you quit, cause He alone is the one that can do so. Next make up your mind and ten just try doing without for an hour then hours and then progressively increase it. But key to this is to pray to God to help you FRIST. This is how stopped.
Get nicotine patches, gum or sticks. If he no work see ur dr for champix
ReplyDeleteThere's this dummy Cigarrete sold n US malls these days, can't remember d name now, f u buy it, it'll help to reduce ur addiction, it has helped a lot of people and urs shd not be an exception, when's v d urg to smoke, just put t n ur mouth, ur problem s ur nose, once t smells, u r fine, see a counselor and pray ts not so hard, no man wl marry a smoker n naija except if he's a chimney, even @ that, his family no go gree
ReplyDeletefor me as a guy i dnt smoke and i dnt intend to get married to someone who does. yes it might have becos if the guy does not mind, his families would.
ReplyDeleteso i think u should quit smoking.
if u are used to ten sticks a day u can make it five for the next one month then 2 a day for another month then a stick .....
BUT MOST ESPECIALLY U need GODS HELP (PRAYER)
I know most lawyers dnt really believe in prayers or praying but i think u should try it
TRY AND CHANGE UR FRIENDS DAT MIGHT HELP ALITTLE
Seriously? Lawyers don't believe in prayers? Come on! I'm Lawyer who believes in prayers and know a whole lot of them who are true christians and believe in prayers. It's not smart to generalize or assume things.
Deleteall u need is Jesus
ReplyDeletejust Try,,,,stop.....I love you,,by the way....Yes am a Lady
ReplyDeleteTry smoking all the cigarettes you can find and see that they have nothing to offer you,try ur possible best to stop it,and sure u'll get like a million guys to come your way,it's really a total put of for guys,to see a decent lady smoke it's either she's had challenges and that's her on solution to it,whenever you think u feel like smoking try and grab a cup of tea,it will help and am sure the lord will see you thru this...Enjoy ur life...
ReplyDeleteForget about if smoking is the reason for ur failed relationships, and focus on how you will stop its gonna be hard but you do it if u r really determined, I know someone who started eating chocolates when they urge to smoke comes, I don't know what method will work for you but talk to a professional, search the web for professional advice
ReplyDeletejust stop and be taking nicotine gum to win u off it... u cant just stop like that
ReplyDeletePlease fo online and read on the best method that has helped people quit smoking and pick one. Its great that you want to stop.
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Look for nicotine patches and everytime u feel d urge to smoke, use it and u will be fine. Ur case needs prayers, beg God to make cigarette nauseate u. Its well dear
ReplyDeleteJust try to stop it,dnt buy cigar 4 a day or 2 and u'll start leaving it
ReplyDeleteThe addiction comes from the nicotine craving. I used to be a serious addict, smoking up to 30 sticks a day but now i have cut down drastically and can go a week without smoking. I did the 30 day no smoking program and it broke my addiction.You need two things while on the program(God and determination). In all honesty I enjoy smoking, but i needed to stop as I had more to gain than loose. I understand when you say cigarettes brings more joy than food, cause that is how I felt. I remember when my gf had issues with my smoking habit and I told her to move on if she doesn't like it. ..
ReplyDeleteOnce in a while, I still smoke with some of my peeps in Abuja and in the confines of my toilet with plenty air freshener and insecticide, but I can now control the urge.
Go on the 30 day program and I assure you that the addiction will be broken, It will be hard but definitely worth it...
FYI- download NHS stop smoking app from the app store, it helps in counting days and serves as a personal motivator.
Emm i'm a smoker and will love to get married to a lady that smokes. . . But that might have to be between me and her alone. I don't see anything wrong with it. . . I smoke and am proud maybe its because i'm a guy but i'll love me a lady that is like me.
ReplyDeletePs i'm in a relationship and tired of hearing i'll die soon cos i smoke. . I can see it on every pack i buy dammit
Emm i'm a smoker and will love to get married to a lady that smokes. . . But that might have to be between me and her alone. I don't see anything wrong with it. . . I smoke and am proud maybe its because i'm a guy but i'll love me a lady that is like me.
ReplyDeletePs i'm in a relationship and tired of hearing i'll die soon cos i smoke. . I can see it on every pack i buy dammit
Emm i'm a smoker and will love to get married to a lady that smokes. . . But that might have to be between me and her alone. I don't see anything wrong with it. . . I smoke and am proud maybe its because i'm a guy but i'll love me a lady that is like me.
ReplyDeletePs i'm in a relationship and tired of hearing i'll die soon cos i smoke. . I can see it on every pack i buy dammit
You smoke and you are proud. How does pride come in? Is smoking an accomplishment?
DeleteIt's interesting when people throw big words around "rehab" come on, for cigarettes....yeah right.
ReplyDeleteI smoked for 23yrs and just went cold turkey. Try patches, lozenges or niquitin. It's a dirty habit, stinks as a matter of fact.
Exactly! That's my greatest problem with smokers. The stink.
DeleteChantix may help u to quit. www.chantix.com
ReplyDeleteMy sister, I smoked from the age of 17 and stopped a thousand times. Now I'm 33 and I actually stopped on the night b4 my 32nd birthday. Five minutes to my 32nd birthday, I gleefully lit that last benson and tastefully smoked it till a minute to midnight. Praise thy lord, since then till now I've passed every smoking temptation including d wicked winter cold I faced when I went to d uk last February. All those nicotine patch things doesn't work for everybody so don't give up if it fails. Try substitution method. There was a time I substituted cigar for fried meat. It helped till I moved out of where I cud easily get fried meat. But I knew I had to stop cos my wife wasn't smart enough to catch me and when she suspected, I lied on beers head. Naive girl couldn't tell the difference. Most importantly though, I looked at d beautiful son she gave me and decided that I'd want him to grow up having a father around. I found a reason to live. U shud find yours ASAP.
ReplyDeleteYes o rehab can be recommended for cigarette addiction.
ReplyDeleteMiss Female Lawyer, on a very serious note, you need Jesus. You guys can insult me if you like but it's the truth.
ReplyDeletePray abt it, be postive n make up ur mind it will stop
ReplyDeleteIn ur shoes gal..it chases men away jst as u said cuz dey'll find u too wild 4 dem to take serious..slow down on it till u finally stop. Wish u d best
ReplyDeletePls just try & be urself. I ll like u 2 visit d internet, search thru google u ll,get more tips on how i can stop smokg and u can see ur doctor too. May d gud Lord help u. Amen
ReplyDeleteJESUS is the only answer to your smoking problem. Invite HIM into your life and He will give you the strength to quit smoking.
ReplyDeleteJESUS is the only answer to your smoking problem. Invite HIM into your life and He will give you the strength to quit smoking.
ReplyDeleteJESUS is the only answer to your smoking problem. Invite HIM into your life and He will give you the strength to quit smoking.
ReplyDeleteJesus, God, Jesus, prayers. They can't help you. Help yourself and you will do it.
ReplyDeleteenjoying ur saf is Gud
ReplyDeleteGo and use nicotine not ladunliadi. Smh.
ReplyDeleteSo there is one invincible person saying being proud of being a smoker is kinda off-key but i don't blame her or him or it sef. Smoking is a habit, i do and i don't hid it from anybody. . . . Thats why i used my name i guess, guess you hid your goodie goodie attitude. Anyway i have learnt not to judge, be you a smoker or a girl that doesn't know how too cook. . . . You are the same in my books.
ReplyDeletePs
only someone that has tasted it knows how it feels. . . . .if you haven't then take a chill pill please
My dear smpking is a very bad habbit n u need to 1) pray about it 2) as a very tough habbit u need 2 break it with anoda habbit eg u myt enrole wit a gym, gym is gud cos ur body will tell u hw much u need 2 stop smkin 3)tell ur frns u've stopped smkin even if u r still fytin it especially whn u guys r hanginf out n sm r smkin 4)hate d smell 5)hate ur lips lol. Well I was a chain! Thnk God. Contact me 4 more info *wink*
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