Sunday, December 2, 2012

I Went Through Hell in My First Marriage- Mercy Aigbe

Mercy Aigbe narrates to us how she suffered a lot in the hands of mother-in-law in her first marriage. She shared some of the sad memories in this chat with Showtime Celebrity. Excerpt:

So what were those mistakes you made in the last one that you wouldn’t want to repeat in this one?
It’s not like I’m trying to sound holy but, I didn’t make any mistake. I just feel it was meant to be like that. I had a mother-in-law who didn’t like where I come from. She didn’t like the fact that her son didn’t marry a lady from their village. She made me go through hell. At a point when I couldn’t take it any more, I left the marriage.

So you wouldn’t blame those ladies who wish their mother-in-laws were dead before they got married?
I swear I wouldn’t blame them. If I think back to what I went through, I wouldn’t pray for anyone to go through such because I went through hell in the hands of that woman. And for me to have woken up one day and decided to leave, it wasn’t easy because I was young and tried my best to please her. But she wasn’t pleased. I went out of my way to learn their language, learn how to cook different dishes just to please her but she didn’t budge.

So what did your ex-husband do about it?
At first, he actually fought it but some women have a strong hold on their sons. In the end, he obeyed her. He didn’t like it that I was leaving but he couldn’t hold me back at the same time because he wanted to please his mum. We had fought the battle for a long time and it wasn’t as if it would come to an end, I had to leave.

46 comments:

  1. I can relate. It baffles me why some mothers think they have to contest and battle with their son's wife. And you will be surprised this is not limited to illiterate mothers in law, the educated, rich ones are the worst.

    Still, I think its not a big enough reason to leave a marriage. Certainly, there were other factors that contributed.

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    1. Mine is highly educated and I swear she is a witch however husband is loving so na she go go no be me. Evil things

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  2. When a man takes me home, the first thing I try to find out is the relationship wiv his mother. Some men are just babies. They cannot just detach themselves from the claws of their mum! There is a difference between respecting your mum and been plane stupid to the point of fighting wiv ur wife wiv your mum! Most times boys who grew up wiv only their mum exhibit such traces.

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  3. Ofcourse dere are many instances where mother-in-laws hate deir son's wives 4 no damn reason & dere are also many instances where daughter-in-laws hate deir husbands family members 4 no reason.It goes both ways

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    1. Na lie na mother in law jealousy and hate plenty pass. The scale weighs more on the devil incarnate mother in laws

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  4. Ofcourse dere are many instances where mother-in-laws hate deir son's wives 4 no damn reason & dere are also many instances where daughter-in-laws hate deir husbands family members 4 no reason.It goes both ways

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  5. Wash, yeye dey smell!
    U r a bad wife period! My mother in-law dis, my mother in-law that. No mother would want a bad wife for her son

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    1. Wicked mother in law that thinks its her right to come and live with son and daughter in law.let newly married couple live and understand themselves in peace. If u son has chosen let them be

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    2. u must be very daft and ignorant

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  6. Wash, yeye dey smell!
    U r a bad wife period! My mother in-law dis, my mother in-law that. No mother would want a bad wife for her son

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    1. I can see you will be a very wicked mother in law. I feel very bad for your future daughter in law.

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    2. U must bi very silly!!! Its ur type dat wld b d moda n wife @ d same time.... U won't allow d couple enjoy deir marriage!!! Rubbish!!!

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    3. laughs.i pray you dont xperience this sha.

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  7. I can relate. It baffles me why some mothers think they have to contest and battle with their son's wife. And you will be surprised this is not limited to illiterate mothers in law, the educated, rich ones are the worst.

    Still, I think its not a big enough reason to leave a marriage. Certainly, there were other factors that contributed.

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  8. Madam we don here!

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  9. Eeem, who is she please?

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  10. Mercy pls keep quite, u should nt be saying bad thing about ur ex- baby father familyin public , u know u re nt saying the truth, ve u forgotten some Akokite cld be coming on dis bloke, d guy u re claiming was ur husband (chineze)or sm igbo name ,d guy use to be a student too in unilag , but rich dude and u see girls all over him then , mercy snatched d guy from a babe ( ifeoma) and next thing mercy was pregnant and moved straight into d guys house on d islAnd nd come to Sch to show off her preggy and flaunt it , it's was obvious she was after d guys money and things wasn't going well wt d guy and mercy started messing up and the guys family death wt her until she moved out to her family house in Anthony! Be careful when u say things to bring people down cos u know u re nt a saint nd ur story is nt hidden ! Unilag babes knowns it all!

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    1. Ur eng is so poor

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    2. Wot kind of english are u writing here..r u a graduate from a village school..please refrain from commenting till you learn to write and speak properly..God will judge you for all dis ur gbaguan this hot sunday afternoonmmm

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    3. U mean "know it all" anyway what a story! The way the girl even talks scares d shit outta me. She sounds and looks like a terrible companion. She looks like someone that would just be giving her mother-in-law a deadly look. She must have given the woman d creeps! She is a bad wife, simple.

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    4. Chai...foul yansh don open ooo...I laugh in pigin..

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    5. re u damn stupid???hw could u say she snatched the guy from a babe..is he a broom or stick that someone can snatch like that....how u come know who wa dating who first aproko like u......no man get snatched from another woman if the man doesnt want to be taken or cheated on his girlfriend..even if the other babe claims to b pregnant.aND TRUST ME some husband family re just full of hatred,ego or enviness.and some see the wife as a robot they can manipulate,used,and turn to their slaves and they also want the wife to count herself lucky that that son or brother is doing her a favour by marrying her,so she shld pay them ransoomely 4 dat favour.

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    6. My goodness!!! U know all this just from her Looks??? *smh* Are u psychic or what? Bad belle people. Mercy, carry go jor. Let pple judge u when dy have walked a mile in ur shoes!!!

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    7. hmmm first you said island and now u said anthony ,liar...no wonder u re still single i know u idiot

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    8. Pakistani Beauty02 December, 2012 18:02

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      Olodo! Didn't u read what she wrote? Elenu razor..quick to run ur fingers without reading properly. She said Mercy moved into the guys house on the Island. But when they broke up, she moved back to her family house in Anthony! Big fool, that's how ppl fail exams. The exam paper will ask u A, u will answer B. Ode!

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    9. Ur stupidity is makin me comment on dis blog for d first time.u lack d ability to read and comprehend.her family's house is in anthony while dat of her ex-hubby is on d island.
      Thank me later.

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    10. Sharrap dia! Anumanu. You are the idiot! Ewu with access to the internet. The person said Mercy moved into the guy's house on the island and when kasala burst she ran to her family house in Anthony. Please go back to nursery school so that you can learn A,B,C.

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    11. It is because of students that write English like this that they changed the name to Maulag. You need to go for adult education classes please.

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    12. Hehen
      Babe wasn't listening @ school.
      *failed english*
      Was busy gathering all the gossips.
      At least u learnt sumtin.
      And I blv ur story.
      Lol

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    13. You must be very shallow minded to judge from how she talks. she must be a very good actress to have u conclude she's the bad person.

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  11. Ok ! Nigerian movie, d lady wud b Patience Ozokwor , ur hubby wud b Bob Manuel, pele so ur frnd helped u out of d marriage by enlightening u abi, dats cool

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    1. Lmao!!!the husband can be Tony Umez

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    2. As in eeehh...juju sabi catch dt man 4 film

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  12. In other words: all of d blame is on dem whil none is on u, clap 4 ursef well well. Angelic.

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  13. How do u keep d beauty going .ow do ur ow do ur babies Look.

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  14. happy yoruba bunny02 December, 2012 18:08

    So you wouldn’t blame those ladies who wish their mother-in-laws were dead before they got married?

    "I swear I wouldn’t blame them. If I think back to what I went through, I wouldn’t pray for anyone to go through such because I went through hell in the hands of that woman"

    are u for real mercy? so cause u went thru hell n her hands; if u had known u wld have prayer for her to die and u have boys? hope ur future daughter in-laws wl not pray for ur death before they marry ur kids.

    remember what goes around comes around, be careful what u wish for my 1p

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    1. WONU: Thank u pple needs to becareful wen sayin sm prayers cos dey will also get to dat stage

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  15. witchcraft moda inlaws!!!smtcheeeeeeeeeeeeeeew!!!

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  16. witchcraft moda inlaws!smtcheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!where's my luca loveeeee oooooooo???????

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    1. what's this goat doing here? this one can never say anything good.

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    2. It was after u started declaring ur love for Luca dt he disappeared. God knows what u've done with Him and u're here shouting where is ur luca love. Yeye dey smell
      Abeg park well ojare make we see road

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  17. So because you had a bad mother in law, you decided to jump into another woman's home. You must have vowed that after you, no other woman will be happy. Was your relationship with your former mother in law enough reason to break another woman's happy home? Shameless, classless babe. You even have the dirty guts to grant interviews claiming that your mate is not borther end by your presence in her husband's life. Where did you get that theory from? Have you forgotten the proverb from your present husband's place (Orishas jenpe meji obirin ko de inu... ). God will surely give you your rewards,. And as you have endorsed that mothers in law should die before their son's marriage, it will backfire to you. I know that you will come back to this blog under pseudo names and anonymous titles to respond. I am not borthered. If you are bold, print your name. Gutter girl. Gboko gboko. Whosoever marries an old man will end up buying the coffin. Ask Bianca. Mtchewww.

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  18. Which correct woman will allow someone like you marry her son. Tufiakwa. Elenu razor. No home training.

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  19. No mind d idiot! very classless girl! runs babe

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  20. lmao at all una comments oh.. the story about her 'Snatching* Chineye from ifeoma is so true.. the guy actually used her to spite Ifeoma cos Ifeoma was using him as 2nd fiddle after John M..But if u know d guys mom eh? u will know better than to marry him...

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  21. Ladun post my comment jor,werre

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