Hope you're having a good day.
My name is Nkem, a student and a blogger. I'm a regular reader of your blog.
I kinda need some advice from your readers...
I'm sending this to you because I want as many opinions/ advice as possible.
I'm 24 years old, engaged to a 32 year old guy and both of us are virgins.
Before our engagement, we dated for over a year, and we have no plans of having sex before we get married.
We're getting married few months from now, and I think I'm a bit scared of the pain I'll feel on the wedding night, during our first sex.
The question is, 'Are there tips, hints, or techniques we can employ to reduce/ eliminate the pain and probably make our first sex experience enjoyable rather than painful?'
Please, this is not fiction, it's real... Help me beg your readers not to insult me.
Thank you very much.
God bless you.
Adam and Eve didn't ask God for tips. It came naturally. It would come naturally. Just look sexy and clean that night. Hope u have a wonderful wedding night and blissful marriage:)
ReplyDeleteFirst.do NOT try to be Sasha Grey or Eva Angelina on your first try...in other words,do not try to be a porn star on your first try..
Delete2.Talk about virtually everythng..be prepared to laff off every awkwardness. Both of you! Because,there will be loads of it
3. Get naked in front of each oda or lie naked next to each oda and fondle while gisting...the sex would follow naturally..this is called "getting comfortable"
3b. Take your bath ooo! Be neat! Odour puts one off! Shave properly except y'all like vintage style
4. Be natural. Don't fake moans to impress anyone...if u like something he/she is doing,say it,if u don't...PRAY it ends
5. Pray for a miracle honey! Cos sexual chemistry takes Grace and loads of practice!
6. Lubricate yourself with lots of foreplay and oil if necessary!
7. Missionary is best for now....*subject to correction!
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Like your reply scorpio.
DeleteDo dogs teach their puppies to bark?
It comes naturally!
Though virgins, you still live in the world!
lay off porn, sista blogford. it's not good for you :)
DeleteThere's no way you can eliminate d pain! U can only reduce it a bit with loads of lubrication. Make sure u have one handy on d honeymoon night. I'm glad you are marrying a virgin too. At least cheating no dey that one. Congrats! :)
ReplyDeleteLots of foreplay and smooching till you're sopping wet and well lubricated then he can insert, that way the ride wouldn't be so bumpy. And if you guys won't mind try oral sex, it'll make u feel relaxed.
ReplyDeleteRelax, it is innate. It'll come naturally.
ReplyDeleteOh my God, i love this. This is an honourable marriage( bed undefiled). Dont worry, the pain is a temporal one. You wil get used to it, by that time, your body wil be a little bit open. Make sure you use a very good lubricant. You can get it in a pharmacy shop. May God who ordained this wonderful institution call "marriage" , guide and protect you both in this journey, Amen
ReplyDeleteIt is not deep pain and you may hardly feel pain depending on your lifestyle before marriage. I cannot recall feeling deep pain.
ReplyDeleteOf course you didn't. How could you have experienced any after you finished fucking all the guys in Unilag.
Deletebless ur Union........u wont feel pain @ all..........and if u do,,,may be a slight pain....and it will be memorable
ReplyDeleteMy dear.. I feel so sorry for u! U better av sex with ur husband to be now, cos I av this strong feeling dat he is either Gay,his Dick is small or he may not be Good on Bed! So pretty pls test it before u are doomed 4 life!!!
ReplyDeletelow life baby gee...why dont u go hug transformer
DeleteBut that's the truth. I can stand a girl been a virgin! Not a man sha. Be realistic. Because the bed is undefiled doesn't mean its gonna be a happy home! U need to find out if the man is ok!
DeleteBabygee made sense for the first time,thk God
DeleteBaby gee so on point.....may be he is impotent cef!! Then when u marry him you can't divorce you'll be stuck with him 4life n will never have a FEEL OF A DICK,,,,,,
DeleteDis stry reminds me of wat happnd to my biological sistr. She got married as a virgin to a guy who supposedly turned calibate in d name of not havin sex b4 marriage. Unknwn to evry1 dat d dude was sterile n cld only hav erection aftr loads to tablets n erection boosters. Sadly she dint discover dis till her 5th mnth in2 d marriage cos he kept makin excuses for his weak or no erection. Bottomline, pls look out for signs like erection n urge cos a virgin @ 32 get small comma ooooo.
DeleteAnd who says u cnt divorce if u find out he's impotent? Nodulling
DeleteRie nsi!
ReplyDeleteMeaning?
DeleteEat excrete
DeleteLmao una dey madt
DeleteLwkmd... Ara na-agba unu, no be small...
DeleteLwkmd... Ara na-agba unu, no be small...
DeleteLol.this was really funny.
DeleteNa wa. I haf tire. First is remain a virgin till your wedding day,now we have to write a manual. We can't know nah, we are virgins too. Anyone that insults me,back to you and your generations
ReplyDeleteHahahaha
DeleteAnon 15:58 soo on point we are all virgins too, looooooooooolzzzzzxxxxxxxxxx
DeleteIt comes naturally. You will get there
ReplyDeleteKY jelly. Finish.
ReplyDeleteWhat worries me is the 'had no plans for sex' does it mean you both didn't try? If y☺u dated for a year and y☺u never got wet with him, its scary cos remaining a virgin doesn't mean y☺u didn't get wet or want it but that y☺u had self control enough to withstand the temptation. If baby never tried...... Let's be frank and avoid stories that touch. Make una no insult me o, I know how hard it is not to have sex with mƴ fiance.......we struggle thru not having sex and I wouldn't na say I need tips when we do decide to have sex.
ReplyDeletehmmm how do you knw it's going to be painful hmmmm i smell something fishy.....................
ReplyDeleteTrue talk.
DeleteBasic Biology! She is a virgin not an idiot. Maybe you should check your kitchen/garbage can for the cause of the fishy smell. *rme*
Delete@Fatimah Osheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeyyyyyyyyy
DeleteFatimah! Lol!
DeleteWell my dear, everyone's first experience is different. Some pple, d pain means they'd try again & again b4 it finally gives way. For some, it 'd give with little persuasion. Anyway, u don't move from pain to intense pleadure at d snap of d fingers. Forget how pple like sugarcoating things. Ur body needs time to get used to sex, to learn to climax. It doesn't come as natural as pple will like to portray. So, if ur first night is rubbish (as most is for many of us), be patient. Ur body will learn to respond to pleasure, to identify what pleases it most, & to what degree of pressure dat will tip you over. Like every skill, sex gets better with practice. So, my advice. Ur first isn't make or break. There would be many more nights. Just relax & remember not to keep a scorecard
ReplyDeleteWONU; just relax and be prepare to take dat beautiful journey into womanhood. God bless u
ReplyDeleteVirgins kwa?
ReplyDeleteDon not be in a haste. It will happen naturally
ReplyDelete*Do*
ReplyDeleteYour man should know how
ReplyDeleteWear your sexiest outfit for him and his stick will immediately go up
ReplyDeleteAfter getting up, it finds the way in. No one understands how water gets into the coconut. No one understands that magic too. It is automatic. Just like your right hand can find its way into your mouth.
ReplyDeleteWHISTLING............... JUST PASSING BY.
ReplyDeleteGOD bless this union. Bcos this is wot most men ar prayin 4
ReplyDeleteSpeak for yourself. I'm not praying for this nonsense
DeleteSpeak for yourself. I'm not praying for this nonsense
Deletelmao
DeleteYuk!! Either I don't bliv dis gist or d guy is a liar or chairperson of all nerds....yimu jor
ReplyDeleteAm shocked, a Vee @ 24 and 32! No be small thoing o
ReplyDeleteLadun, please search your mailbox. There must be something there, more interesting than all these your recent lame stories
ReplyDeleteSisi Virgin, Happy married life. Pls don't come back here with any "5 seconds before ejaculation" stories biko.
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ReplyDeleteIf the story na true babe go buy K.Y jelly for pharmacy, use a little of it before penetration and subsequently enjoy the ride.....
Ehlm I realy thnk ders a prob with the guy...Iknw of a frnd dat got married in a similar situation and later found out Bros couldn't get d stick up ever,yea like ever!dats just wicked to me,I'm sure u kan find a way 2make him hard!@least dat way u knw somfin is alive!make e remain performance mata!1 bridge crossed.
ReplyDeleteFirst of all, some of you are giving rubbish advice.
ReplyDeleteI would advise you to take some alcohol so you're tipsy but not drunk, it will help you relax & get you in the mood.
Second, make sure you do lots of foreplay (like giving him head and him rubbing and eating your p). He should also makes sure he fingers u 1 finger at a time until you're comfortable and it starts to feel good.
When you are ready to do some penetration, he can be on top but if you lie down at the edge of the bed and he is standing off the bed it will be easier for him not to put all his weight on you unintentionally. That way, he can just start to put it in a little bit (just the head) very slowly and gently. He should only be going in and out a little bit very slowly with the head of his penis. When ur ready he can do a bit more but he should never try and go in all the way all at once.
After he's opened you up a little you should switch positions and go on top so you can control how far it goes in and how fast until you're sitting on the whole thing. Then you can control the speed of the thrusting.
Good luck, happy married life. Kudos to both of u for waiting until marriage!